In personalized Federated Learning, each member of a potentially large set of agents aims to train a model minimizing its loss function averaged over its local data distribution. We study this problem under the lens of stochastic optimization. Specifically, we introduce informationtheoretic lower bounds on the number of samples required from all agents to approximately minimize the generalization error of a fixed agent. We then provide strategies matching these lower bounds, in the all-for-one and all-for-all settings where respectively one or all agents desire to minimize their own local function. Our strategies are based on a gradient filtering approach: provided prior knowledge on some notions of distances or discrepancies between local data distributions or functions, a given agent filters and aggregates stochastic gradients received from other agents, in order to achieve an optimal bias-variance trade-off.