This work takes place in the context of the development of an active control of instruments with geometrical nonlinearities. The study focuses on Chinese opera gongs that display a characteristic pitch glide in normal playing conditions. In the case of the xiaoluo gong, the fundamental mode of the instrument presents a softening behaviour (frequency glides upward when the amplitude decreases). Controlling the pitch glide requires a nonlinear model of the structure, which can be partially identified with experimental techniques that rely on the formalism of nonlinear normal modes. The fundamental nonlinear mode has been previously experimentally identified as a softening Duffing oscillator. This paper aims at performing a simulation of the control of the oscillator's pitch glide. For this purpose, the study focuses on a single-degree-of-freedom nonlinear mode described by a softening Duffing equation. This Duffing oscillator energy proves to be ill-posed-in particular, the energy becomes negative for large amplitudes of vibration , which is physically inconsistent. Then, the first step of the present study consists in redefining a new energetically well-posed model. In a second part, guaranteed-passive simulations using port-Hamiltonian formalism confirm that the new system is physically and energetically correct compared to the Duffing model. Third, the model is used for control issues in order to modify the softening or hardening behaviour of the fundamental pitch glide. Results are presented and prove the method to be relevant. Perspectives for experimental applications are finally exposed in the last section of the paper.